Graygender, also sometimes spelled as greygender, and sometimes referred to as gray agender or grey agender, is a gender identity that describes a feeling of ambivalence towards one's gender. It can also be defined as an identity in which a person feels a weak connection to gender in general.
The use of "gray-" in graygender is intended to be similar to the use of the suffix for graysexual. Instead of feeling a weak attraction as with graysexual, a person who is graygender would instead feel a weak connection to gender.
The term graygender was first coined by Tumblr user invernom, on March 20th, 2014.
The flag for this identity was designed by Pride-Flags on DeviantArt, on August 23, 2015. The meanings for the graygender flag's colors are as follows:
- Grey: Spectrum of experiences under this identity
- Blue: Graygender as an identity and experience, comparing it to deep ocean waters
- White: Purity and validity of graygender people and their unique experiences
- Main article: Agender
Agender can sometimes be confused with graygender, but they are distinct in their own ways. Agender is typically defined as having no gender at all. Graygender is about having a weak connection to gender, or otherwise not caring about one's own gender.
- Main article: Asexual spectrum#Graysexual
Both graygender and graysexual share the same prefix, but they are two different types of terms. Graysexual is a sexual orientation, in comparison to greygender which is a gender identity. A graysexual person is someone who experiences a very weak sense of sexual attraction, or may only feel it on very rare occasions.
- Main article: Aromantic spectrum#Grayromantic
Similar to the difference between graygender and graysexual, grayromantic is a romantic orientation instead of a gender like graygender. It simply shares the same prefix as graygender and graysexual, and is defined as a weak or rare sense of romantic attraction.
- Hardell, Ash. The ABC's of LGBT+. Mango Media Inc., 2016. ISBN 9781633534087.