Hello I am a gay trans man and aroace I use he/him or she/her. Anyway my friend just got a gf and she is transephobic as hell. She also has rare condition called autism. Just like most with her condition she dislikes technology so I cant show her with a phone or a computer and teach her or she will freak out. They with tgat condition hate anything fiction as well so I cant watch TV and show her. I cant handle her mis gendering me. English is not my first language so I used google translate for some words. I am onen portuguese.
What's on your mind?
For the ace spectrum page, can someone add orchidsexual?
It will be very much appreciated!
Im sure many of you have seen some of the controversy surrounding Ezra Miller and their violent behavior. Ive noticed many people seem to take this as an opportunity to purposely misgender them.
To start of i'm not defending the actions of Ezra or any Trans/NB criminal, or a Trans/NB person who has said or done very problematic things.
For some reason, when a Trans/NB people does something wrong, people suddenly start misgendering them. This comes from people who would misgender them even if they hadn't done it, but I sometimes see people who 'respect Trans/NB people' yet misgender, say, trans criminals because the person is 'a bad person' and 'doesn't deserve respect'.
Why on earth do people do this? When a Cis person commits a crime or something, no-one starts calling them the wrong pronouns. But when a Trans/nb person does, people do. Im talking about the ones who 'respect Trans/NB people', why do they do this? the blatant Transphobes do it all the time... but the others I just don't get.
I previously declared that I had the labels demiboy and bisexual(females+non binary) but I haven't been experiencing any feelings of agender recently and less attraction towards those with non binary identities I am getting better with my male body and better with being a male I don't if that's because there's no particular sex for a demiboy and I just gotta deal with what I got or because I'm a cis guy my I haven't felt attracted towards anything but women (sexually at least. I do use the label omniromantic for my romantic attraction) sooo I don't really know if the labels I used work better than cishet but if I have a different experience than I'll be sure to rethink myself
Thanks for reading
I think I might be attracted to non binary people, guys and maybe girls.
Im a female
I think I would only end up marrying a dude (even if its a trans dude)
What is that called?
Ok so i want to come out to my dad as bi (cause im pretty confident that i am multisexual in some way lol) and im trying to decide how to do it
I'm thinking a letter and then talking abt it with him later but idk ;-;
He's not explicitly queerphobic btw we just have never talked about it and im nervous
Edit: if it makes a difference, i currently identify as bi but im considering omnisexual as a microlabel :)
Some of my friends use them and I need help with how to use them and how to use fae/faer and others, please help!
So i got sexuality covered. but gender is hard. i feel like i mostly don’t have a gender, but i also feel like i am mildly a boy? like something between demi boy and agender??
Also, it turns out i do not have sexuality covered. i think im a demi romantic ace who is also polyam but also not sometimes. im also panromantic? maybe? could be biromantic? help. please.
Does anyone know if there is a term for when you feel more just like yourself than a specific gender? Like rathwr than being male or female im just kinda... me I guess. Im okay with gendered terms but mainly I just identify as myself and who I am / what I like make up my identity.
I'm not new but I realised I've never actually done an official intro here...
Names: Spring or Laurel or Yanny
Pronouns: any are fine
Orientation: sapphic oriented aroace (and questioning)
Gender: honestly idk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Hobbies: drawing, reading, listening to music, wasting time on pinterest
Ok I don’t want to offend anyone, but I feel like sometimes representation in queer representation is not very good. What I mean is that quite a few regions of lgbtq is left out/ unheard of in media, literature, etc. sorry I just felt like saying this, a lot of people I know don’t seem to know a sh!t about aro, let alone ace or xenogenders. And in media I haven’t seen a single on of my romantic orientation/ sexuality/ gender so like yeah.
Every once in a while I doubt that Im a cis guy so I made this chart to see where I fit. Im defiantly not 100% Male, but I feel i'm enough Male to be comfy enough to call myself that. (The same way some Monosexuals use Gay/Lesbian/Straight despite still being somewhat attracted to another gender, because it feels comfortable to them).
I'm definatly not Agender or on the Agender spectrum, not too on the extreme feminine side 7-10. I found this really helped me feel comfy with a 3A, if someone asked me abt me gender identity i would probably jusst say guy coz i do love meing male, 100% comfy with he/him, being called a guy and my body. When misgenders me as a girl (im pretty femme), i feel weird and not validated at all. PROBABLY not 1 or somewhere between 5-6. and tbh 3A resonates with me, and I can picture myself there, but I don't feel Demi-boy or nb guy, I feel comfy with just 'g u y'
I made my own bc the classic Male-Female line wasn't helping much, this chart won't work 4 everyone, but if it does then here you go lmao
By the title, I mean something like the pages pansexual and panromantic, omnisexual and omniromantic, etc. Some of these pages seem to be pretty similar, with maybe some slight wording changes and of course -sexual replaced to -romantic. Other ones, however, are pretty different and can have missing or even somewhat confusing or contradictory information. For these articles, should we write them almost the same, with just the prefix replacements, or should they be written completely differently, but with more consistency than they are now? I imagine for the romantic orientations, sources specifically referring to the romantic orientation may be hard to find, but I imagine many of the sexuality sources could be used, as the terms are simply the romantic equivalent.
Asking for clarification and hope these questions made sense!
Link to other parts
Content warning: mentions of toxic home environment
Romantic attraction: The final part! I've always been... weird? About love? Like, I like the idea, but not... everything that comes with it. I take in A TON of romance media. Drama, anime, books... that stuff. And it's one of my favorite things to do. But as everyone says, those things are the "flowery, sunshine and rainbows" depictions of love, and therefore, don't get your hopes up. It's unrealistic. That whole spiel? Yeah.
Really? If that's true, then, what is love? (baby, don't hurt me... idc, that never gets old) But like actually. Question for the ages! Also, it makes "real love" sound bland! Then I almost don't want to deal with it at all. Idk, it's just, people make it sound so complicated. Because it is, and I get that. You see it save people, and you see it ruin them. My parents? They're not doing great. Every couple fights, but there has been blood. Us kids are stuck playing mediator. Well, you guys know that story. Not fun. It's been way better, though I think I still kinda have ptsd lol. Anyway, I always look at things from a logical standpoint. "If the risk outweighs the merit, why not stick to anime?" Obviously, being on the aro spectrum is different from being just afraid.
So I have some other things to say that might help differentiate them. Like I said last time, I don't really care about gender. If I were to fall for someone, it's their personality. I never understood how so many people fall in love so quickly. "Huh? What? Love at first sight? You... don't even know them?" Just seems shallow, y'know? For that reason, I've never had real crushes. But I find it really easy to fall for fictional characters, because (and I've heard this a lot) you know how they think. How they act. The why behind it. You've seen it all. Literally their life story. I think I'd need that from real people, too. This part sounds like demiromantic, I guess.
Thanks for reading to the end. Next thing would be a formal intro, since I never did one.
So, when I don’t know someone’s gender and that person is not around to ask, I use they/them pronouns. That’s makes sense, right? I don’t want to assume someone’s gender but also not all people go by they/them and might find it offensive.
People who have genders such as "Beargender" or "Catgender" its pretty much people liking cats and incorporating them into their GENDER?????!!!!
I am a part of the lgbtqia+ wiki and this makes me so mad.
I am so sorry but if you need to feel special making up genders is not the way to go. People who decide to just do this are not anything but a pain. Please stop normalizing people who make up genders to feel special.
It's just so awful
Name: just call me A
Sexual orientation: asexual
Romantic orientation: omniromantic